Are you fed up being viewed differently because you are single?
Are you sick of people wondering why?
I feel that being single is so often looked at in an unfair light, seen as an unwelcome situation and all too often posing the very question ‘Why are you single?’
Yet I don’t understand why it is perceived in this way. It is somewhat puzzling, as surely your single status should be regarded in high esteem, valued for what it is. Someone who does not settle for less just so they are not alone
Someone who is strong, happy and independent enough to be on their own, either by choice or until they meet the right person.
I am not disputing the benefits of having a partner but let us not dismiss the benefits of being single too; it is fine to make that choice to stay single if you want to. While at the same time I do think it can be wonderful to be with someone but only if it is the right person otherwise what is the point?
A friend once told me how a colleague had discovered that her partner was being unfaithful but she did nothing and instead said to my friend ‘but it is better than being on your own!’
It left me pondering to what extent people will put up with a bad situation just to save being alone?
Why put up with crap? You can do crap on your own. Surely single is better than unhappy?
I am surprised at just how many people are so afraid to be alone. Or worse, the fact that I myself have known people who really cannot handle being without a partner for even the tinniest length of time.
You do not need to be with the wrong person just to avoid being single.
It is your life so shouldn’t you strive for what you want? Surely you deserve better!
If you are single it should be because you know your self-worth. To know that you are not only strong enough to be on your own but that you can have an interesting enough life that doesn’t need to depend on a partner in order for you to be happy. To want a man is one thing, to need a man is something else!
So if you are single then I urge you to think again about your whole single status and instead hold it in the high esteem it so deserves by acknowledging your strength and self-worth. That you can be happy in your life, and would only alter that single status for a pretty incredible person. Otherwise, it is just not worth it!
So, be proud of your single status, hold your head high and the next time anyone asks you ‘Why are you are single?’ – simply reply ‘because I can be!’